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With school holidays just around the corner, parents across New Zealand will be well into making plans and arrangements for their tamariki.

Protecting your tamariki and keeping them safe from people and situations that may pose a risk is the most important role you can play as a parent or caregiver, even if it means having to make unpopular decisions.

In the rush of organising the school holidays, checking in on the safety of places like school holiday programmes is most likely not front and centre. We’ve developed a quick check list for you to use to make it easier to check that your children are safe and in good hands these coming holidays.

Holiday programmes – do your homework and ask questions. Don’t assume that because a holiday programme is perceived to be well run, that it is safe for your child to attend. Ask questions like:

• Are your staff police checked?
• Do you have a child protection policy?

If these things are not in place, you may want to consider if you feel comfortable with your child attending.

Play dates – know the people your tamariki will be with. Don’t assume that because people seem nice that you should entrust your child to their care.

Ask yourself these questions first:

• How well do I know the people who will be looking after my child?
• Do I know who else may be at the home?
• Does my child have a way of contacting me if they need to, for example access to a mobile phone or Spacetalk Watch?

If you have any reservations or concerns, it’s fine to say “no”. You’re not being insensitive; you’re being a good parent.

Home alone - Children can be left unattended at home from the age of 14 years old. Make sure you’re confident that your teen is mature enough, can make safe decisions and has access to adult support if they need it.

Ask yourself these important questions:

• Do I know how they will be filling their time?
• Do I know where they will be, and who they will be with?
• Will they be online, and do I know what content they are accessing and who they may be communicating with?

As New Zealand welcomes in 2022 and we feel the uplift of a New Year, it is difficult to ignore the cloud of uncertainty surrounding COVID-19 and what it means for not only our health system and economy, but also our community and general family wellbeing.

Combined with the existing everyday stresses for families, the impact and changes that COVID-19 has had on our society through social isolation, lockdowns, business closures and impact on jobs, as well as economic uncertainty, can create high levels of tension and fear for adults. Unfortunately, these factors increase the risk of violence against children and youth.

Although we are yet to fully understand the effect these COVID-19 stresses have bought to families, we do know that New Zealand has horrific child abuse statistics regardless. The sad truth is that New Zealand is not a big country, yet we are unable to effectively protect our most vulnerable tamariki.

Last year, nine children were killed allegedly at the hands of a caregiver or family – or one child every five weeks – and unfortunately these appalling figures are already worsening just two weeks into the start of the year. During the first few weeks of 2022, there have already been three very serious alleged child abuse cases.

These worsening child abuse figures continue to prove that New Zealand is not making any progress in protecting its children and young people. There has been a lot of conversation and reviews regarding the current systems and agencies that New Zealand has to deal with child abuse – but as yet there is has been no real change implemented and children are still dying or being harmed.

It is important to understand that these issues will never change unless we change the way we are responding – unless we get serious with frontline community support, resourcing, and training, otherwise our children and young people will continue to be harmed.

Mandatory child protection training for professionals (particularly teachers and health professionals), increasing resourcing to train community and frontline organisations who work with at risk families, and vetting for anyone working with children in either a paid or voluntary capacity are obvious first steps.

In saying that, we all have a role to play. Whether it be by ensuring we know what to do if we have concerns about the welfare of a child, being vigilant regarding child safety in our work and personal capacity, being willing to speak up when there is a safety concern or holding our politicians and community leaders to account on these issues.

As New Zealand’s national child abuse Charitable Trust, Child Matters continues to advocate for children and be dedicated to the prevention of child abuse.